going to school is ok but have you considered the alternatives:
- exploring iceland
- learning how to swordfight
- figuring out how to make macarons at home so you don’t have to pay ridiculous amounts of money for them
- practicing drawing bugs until you’re really good at it
- working on stuff you really like but don’t have time for because school
- petting a cat
- outer space
What is sexy on a guy?— Anonymous
Hands, mouths, collar bones. The way they laugh, or talk with their hands. The way they drink, or do their work. If you see a guy who’s very comfortable with himself in his element, it’s very attractive.
Most adult children of toxic parents grow up feeling tremendous confusion about what love means and how it’s supposed to feel. Their parents did extremely unloving things to them in the name of love. They came to understand love as something chaotic, dramatic, confusing, and often painful—something they had to give up their own dreams and desires for. Obviously, that’s not what love is all about.
Loving behavior doesn’t grind you down, keep you off balance, or create feelings of self-hatred. Love doesn’t hurt, it feels good. Loving behavior nourishes your emotional well-being. When someone is being loving to you, you feel accepted, cared for, valued, and respected. Genuine love creates feelings of warmth, pleasure, safety, stability, and inner peace.
Susan Forward, Toxic Parents, p381 (via mxnotmrdarcy)
This also applies to survivors of abusive relationships.
I’m still unpacking all the junk that got smashed into my head by my mother and by my abusive ex after her.